Preventive Maintenance for Marriage…

My Husband and I… are not a high-profile celebrity couple. We live a simple life, full of daily reminders that we are human. But what makes us extraordinary is the love we share. The love we cherish. The love we protect. The love we cultivate. We have a special kind of love. And it takes… Continue reading Preventive Maintenance for Marriage…

The REAL of Relationships, Part I: Emotions, Words and Actions

What can I say about relationships? I had a total of ZILCH, ZERO and NADA before meeting my husband. So prior to meeting him and being in a 12-year love affair with him, I couldn’t tell you what a man wanted or needed. Or women either for that fact. I knew what I wanted to… Continue reading The REAL of Relationships, Part I: Emotions, Words and Actions

Pursuing a Man…

A Facebook friend of mine posted this photo of a woman, down on one knee with ring in hand, proposing to a man. This got me all in my feelings. But let me tell you WHY… First of all, as a woman, we are strong, able and capable of doing a lot of things in… Continue reading Pursuing a Man…

Blended or Broken, Part III: Is it Ever Enough?

As you might have read in the first two parts to this blog, my Husband’s ex-wife has officially separated from reality in so many ways we have lost count. I took the stance early in our marriage to look at both sides of the coin and weigh them equally, without giving him the benefit of… Continue reading Blended or Broken, Part III: Is it Ever Enough?

You Put Your Man On A Sex Schedule?

So you wanna put your Husband on a sex schedule? Let’s see how that works out for you… I am posting this because some women are not quite comprehending this. Men, I am trying to get this in their mindsets, so you hold your horses, please! Ladies, I know wives who have put their husbands… Continue reading You Put Your Man On A Sex Schedule?

How do you Roll with Roles in Marriage?

  Listen, I know before I was asked to write on this subject it would cause a few nervous ticks and hot collars. Roles in marriage has morphed from decade to decade and much of it is so unrecognizable now that whatever I say in this post will offend someone. But please read it all.… Continue reading How do you Roll with Roles in Marriage?

INFIDEL-ity

So, you wanna cheat? I am not talking about cheating on your girlfriend or boyfriend. I mean you have decided to break covenant and invite another person into a union you swore to in front of God and a bunch of hungry relatives and friends. Why is there ever a time in your mind that… Continue reading INFIDEL-ity

SubMission

The first thing women want is a good man. The last thing they want is to submit to him. Why is that? Are you so independent and proud that you think you can wing it on your own without his covering and provision? Or do you think you ‘grown’ and he can’t tell you what… Continue reading SubMission

Blended or Broken, Part II: Who’s #1?

In keeping with the subject of the Blended Family Unit, I would like to veer into a lane that many of the blended families have to deal with…the order of the Family. Many times, when the Husband remarries and already has kids, he is now confronted with the issue of who comes first in his… Continue reading Blended or Broken, Part II: Who’s #1?

In the Bedroom…

I don’t have any problems posting about matters of the bedroom because many issues in marriage derive from it. This post is for the married, but it also is for those who will be. I don’t condone sex before marriage so if you aren’t married, please use this as a teaching tool…Please! Intimacy is a… Continue reading In the Bedroom…

Blended or Broken?

When I met my Husband 11.5 years ago, I knew he was recently divorced and had kids with his ex. After a while of getting to know him, I was confident that he was over her and there was nothing left of their relationship. He was free to move on. The only thing left of… Continue reading Blended or Broken?

She Doesn’t Exist…

This is reminder for some of you single MEN…I have seen you walking around the clubs, churches, grocery stores and GAS STATIONS, searching out some an unsuspecting woman who is thirsty for attention. You have no aspirations of being a husband, or for that fact, in a monogamous relationship (that means you and ONE woman).… Continue reading She Doesn’t Exist…

Back on the Horse…

If you have been divorced, widowed or been in a long-term relationship that has ended, this post is for you. Ladies and Gentlemen, love can be found again. I don’t condone divorce but if it happens! Life doesn’t end. Going on with your life isn’t a violation of any code or law. In fact, it’s… Continue reading Back on the Horse…

Your Throne Awaits…

Dear Black Man… What is it that I behold? Who is it that I observe? Your eyes show me power, love and at the same time, fear and desperation. How far will you let me in? Will you show me your roots? Will you go as far back as when your mothers, daughters and wives… Continue reading Your Throne Awaits…

If You Think You’re Lonely Now…

Good morning from windy I-55 South in Illinois… My Husband and I are headed homeward and it has been a great trip so far. This morning, as we prepared for our day, I thought back how when I was single, I longed to have someone waking up next to me and feeling their body next… Continue reading If You Think You’re Lonely Now…